Last year I thought I had everything figured out. I had a wonderful relationship, friends and family who loved me, and a job I didn’t hate. I had it pretty good. Don’t get me wrong, I still have it pretty good, but so much has changed in the last year it has left me feeling a bit lost. Tragedy struck my life and the people around me on more occasions than I would like to say. All of a sudden I was overwhelmed with sadness, anxiety, and a lack of self-love. I knew that I would get through it, but knowing that you will eventually feel better doesn’t make you feel better right now.
This too shall pass. Okay, yeah… but right now I feel shitty so fuck that. People will tell you over and over again that it will get better. They might even tell you to just get over it. Um, excuse you. But for people who deal with anxiety the fears they experience are very real. I want to share with you why it’s absolutely okay to feel this way and some things that can help you right now.
You are human. No one goes through their whole life with a big smile on their face 24/7, and if they do, just know, it’s fake and they are probably suffering just like the rest of us. That’s the thing about being human, emotions are something that we deal with on a daily basis. Here are a few things you can do when those negative emotions start creeping in.
There are a million different ways you can meditate and a million reasons why you should. When you feel anxious or are experiencing a panic attack your mind is going a mile a minute. Let your brain rest, slow it down. If you’re new to meditation I suggest trying out some guided mediation. There are tons of apps out there for this and you can find meditations specific to your needs. You can also just google, for example, meditation for anxiety and just try some out! Meditating might not come easy to some people but as with everything else in life *sigh* it takes practice. Setting aside just 10 minutes a day can really improve your overall mood and energy.
You have about 60,000 thoughts a day and I’m betting you let most of those just pass you by. You might not want to talk about certain things or don’t have the right person to talk to and that’s okay! Journaling helps get those thoughts out of your head which can help clear your mind. You can journal about literally anything. You can write about the things you are grateful for, reasons for your anxiety, or keep a dream journal, etc. I find it helpful to write down why I am feeling anxious and the steps I took to calm down so that when I am feeling that way again I can come back to it and use that same tool to alleviate those feelings.
Find a Hobby
A hobby can be anything that you enjoy doing in your free time. It can be cooking, painting, watching Netflix, or even cleaning if that’s your thing (I wish it was mine!). Finding time to do things you love is really important for your overall happiness. If you only do things for other people and because of deadlines at work, etc. you will never really feel fulfilled. Your passions are an important part of who you are and you don’t want to lose that!
I don’t know about you but at the end of a very long day (or week) I would love to get into a nice warm bathtub with a bath bomb surrounded by candles. Unfortunately I don’t have a bathtub so I shower while listening to spa music instead. It’s easy to forget about taking time for yourself. Not all of us have time for an hour long bath at the end of the day (myself included) so what are other things that you can do for self-care? For me self-care is putting lavender oil in my diffuser, getting into my comfiest Pjs, making some tea and slipping into bed to read a good book. Everybody’s self-care looks a bit different, find yours and treat yo-self!
My last tip for dealing with anxiety is a simple one, just breathe. When you are feeling anxious you tend to get tense and short of breath and you feel like you might just combust. Find some place quiet to sit and just slow down your breathing. You won’t believe what just 15 seconds of slow, deep breathing can accomplish. Closing your eyes and visualizing your anxiety dissipating like it is a physical entity while you are doing this can also help.
Just remember, your feelings are valid and your anxiety does not own you. Try one of these tips next time anxiety decides to invade your life and you will thank yourself. If you have other tips and tricks on dealing with anxiety I would love to hear from you in the comments!
Love & light.
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